15.05.2024
What you have to remember about Helen and Girl 3 is that once upon a time I used to talk to them all the time. And they wanted to hang around me. With both of them, it is me that has stopped hanging around them after they wouldn’t go out with me.
In fact, I have found in life, that most women want to talk to me. Hence the fact that I can find someone new every few days on the dating app. Here is me being charming to one of them today:
The reason I’m sharing this (besides proving to Helen that women want to talk to me and do) is because you would think from the fact that I talk about two women that have rejected me (one went out with me first so she didn’t actually turn me down straight away) that there might be something wrong with me and I can’t even joke around with a woman. Completely not true. The real problem is the amount I have to compromise for anyone and whether I am willing to do it or not. And obviously whether they are interested in me themselves.
Why am I talking to someone that isn’t Helen or Girl 3? Because what encouragement have they given me? Actually, that is not fair. Girl 3 has given me much more encouragement than Helen because I have hung around with her outside of the context I know her in quite a few times. Even after she wouldn’t go out with me. That’s because I didn’t stop talking to her completely and just forgave her straight away. Because the situation is different.
Exhaustion at the end of today. And I am not used to sitting around all day any more. For two and a half years, I have been on my feet all day.
So I couldn’t work on my assessment today.
Everyone has an ideal woman in mind. But, as you get older, you realise that no one can match your ideals. You have to compromise. There is no perfect, ideal person in the world. It is just how much you are willing to compromise. For instance, I am having to talk to women that I know drink. I don’t like drinking. My grandfather died from a stroke probably because he drank every day. But if I said that I won’t go with someone that drinks in this country, then I wouldn’t have any one. Because they basically all drink.
If I had my absolute perfect woman, she would be:
– someone that wants to start a family and is a family type person
– kind and considerate
– passionate
– shares the same social commitments and values as me
– and if she doesn’t share the same thoughts as me, she can communicate with me to resolve issues
– open to other cultures and my culture
– romantic
– intellectual
– creative
– someone practically minded that can run a family
– someone with the social skills to be able to run a family
– interested in art, literature, science, films, politics, psychology – all learning
– an anarchist
– a good conversationalist that loves deep conversations
– beautiful
– athletic and active – someone that wants to do things
– someone who could speak several languages fluently for my children
– someone that liked long walks, parks, museums and art galleries
– someone that is careful with money in general but can also spend it to have a good time
But I know that it is not possible to tick all the boxes and I also believe in diversity. So maybe it is a good thing I don’t have my perfect woman.
And you can’t control who you love. Look at Helen. Somehow, arguing with her, I have fallen in love with her. There is some undefinable reason why it has happened which you couldn’t predict on paper. With Girl 3 and Potential Girl, you could have predicted it because they have the same personality as me.